Comments on: Study: Moms of kids with autism have higher stress http://www.patriciaebauer.com/2009/07/10/study-moms-autism-stress-19970/ Disability News | PatriciaEBauer.com Wed, 24 Nov 2010 22:50:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Karen Shrimpton http://www.patriciaebauer.com/2009/07/10/study-moms-autism-stress-19970/comment-page-1/#comment-4908 Karen Shrimpton Thu, 15 Oct 2009 03:32:47 +0000 http://www.patriciaebauer.com/?p=19970#comment-4908 I totally agree with these findings. I am a mum of two sons diagnosed with Aspergers Sydrome and I find the daily living skills deficits are hard work but they are not overly stressful. It is the behaviour problems that ensue from their high anxieties with everyday living. The stress is not only on the homefront either. In public children that are not perfectly behaved are frowned upon and so are their parents. I repeatedly have complete strangers telling me off or what I'm doing wrong or telling the kids off. They may be having a sensory reaction in a busy, loud supermarket or foodhall and the behaviours they exhibit are deemed not acceptable by the public. Sometimes, if you have the energy, you can enlighten them on why the kids are "behaving badly". It does get exhausting doing this every trip though. Going out in public fills me with dread when the kids are in tow. It is hard to keep focus on the kids and help them get through issues and deal with their emotions when everyone around you judges you as a bad parent. Yes, so stresses are high due to problem behaviours in my autistic sons but it is also due to "problem behaviours" by the public who are unaware of this hidden disability. I totally agree with these findings. I am a mum of two sons diagnosed with Aspergers Sydrome and I find the daily living skills deficits are hard work but they are not overly stressful. It is the behaviour problems that ensue from their high anxieties with everyday living.

The stress is not only on the homefront either. In public children that are not perfectly behaved are frowned upon and so are their parents. I repeatedly have complete strangers telling me off or what I’m doing wrong or telling the kids off. They may be having a sensory reaction in a busy, loud supermarket or foodhall and the behaviours they exhibit are deemed not acceptable by the public. Sometimes, if you have the energy, you can enlighten them on why the kids are “behaving badly”. It does get exhausting doing this every trip though.

Going out in public fills me with dread when the kids are in tow. It is hard to keep focus on the kids and help them get through issues and deal with their emotions when everyone around you judges you as a bad parent.

Yes, so stresses are high due to problem behaviours in my autistic sons but it is also due to “problem behaviours” by the public who are unaware of this hidden disability.

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